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Dear Mr. President,
I am worried about you. Not for your personal safety—the Secret Service will protect your body. I am worried about you. As a person.
You seem obsessed, not with doing the best, but with being seen as The Best Ever. Those are very different things.
Needing others to laud you as The Best Ever gives them the power to determine your worth and value as a person, which is a very insecure position to be in. Even though millions of people think you are great, it’ll never be enough—your need is a swirling beast that will never be satisfied.
Many of us have suffered with this swirling beast. I know I have, but after a lot of prayer and Bible study, I found that my worth as a person rests in my identity as a beloved and forgiven child of God. And that gives me a strong center to work from.
A person with a strong center can take disagreement without falling apart and needing to demean those who challenge them.
You lash out and demean and try to punish people when they thwart you, and so many people have thwarted your need to be seen as The Best Ever. The majority of the American people did not vote for you; your victory in the Electoral College ranked only 13th out of 58, falling far short of the “landslide” you called it; there were more people at the Women’s March yesterday than at your inauguration. The numbers show that you are not seen as The Best Ever, and it clearly bothers you very, very much. Because you seem to lack a strong center, I worry that you will punish the American people you blame for this situation—women, African Americans, Hispanics, LBGTQ people, Muslims, immigrants, refugees, people dependent on the Affordable Care Act, people who are disabled.
You say that you are a Christian. It will be my prayer for you during your administration that you become more and more secure in your status as a child of God, and that it gives you the strength to no longer be so bothered by the ranking of your win, or so threatened by disagreement.
Here’s a great verse to start with:
“So you have not received a spirit that makes you fearful slaves. Instead, you received God’s Spirit when he adopted you as his own children. Now we call him, ‘Abba, Father.’ For his Spirit joins with our spirit to affirm that we are God’s children. And since we are his children, we are his heirs. In fact, together with Christ we are heirs of God’s glory. But if we are to share his glory, we must also share his suffering.” (Romans 8:15-17 NLT)
If Bible verses are not your thing, then I hope you find another way to a strong center. We’re counting on you.